My family is in a season of grief which can be a lonely place. I can almost guarantee we are not the only ones, as there are a lot of reasons for loneliness. However, as I am walking this new, unwanted journey, I’ve found comfort in and companionship with Jesus in an even deeper, more intimate way. I’m still learning but here are some treasures God is teaching me about loneliness.
I’m not alone.
You may feel, and may even be physically, alone. However, if you’ve put your trust in Jesus, His spirit lives in you. The Holy Spirit is a comforter, guide, and counselor present with you, always. I love the truth from Ephesians 2:13…Jesus is near. I speak these words out loud and meditate on them all the time…no matter what, Jesus is near.
If you read the account of Abraham and Sarah in Genesis, you also meet Sarah’s maidservant, Hagar. Hagar has to do whatever she’s told. So, in order for this childless couple to have a child, Sarah gives Hagar to Abraham to make a baby. Hagar conceives and dysfunction ensues. You can read about how God meets Hagar in her lonely circumstances in Genesis 16 and 21, but my favorite verse is Genesis 16:13 . Hagar gave this name to the Lord, who spoke to her, “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” Doesn’t it thrill your soul that God sees you? It sure does mine! Remind yourself; – your heartache and loneliness may be invisible to others but not to God…He sees you!
Psalm 139 is a great place to hang out if you are feeling lonely. I recommend you read it in more than one translation to gain even more perspective. Sometimes we feel misunderstood, like no one ‘gets’ us. Let’s be honest, sometimes we don’t understand ourselves. God truly ‘gets’ us…knows us better than anyone does and He loves us! You are known!
You may still be longing for people in your life to fill the insecurities listed above, but people or the ‘right’ person can’t cure our loneliness or provide true security. Companionship is a gift from God. Not to replace Him because He cannot be replaced, but to shore us up on this journey of life.
My friend, keep reading His word. Practice talking to Him like a friend. Remind yourself He is always near, that He sees you, and that He knows you. It’s amazing the comfort and confidence that will come as a result.