This week, we are digging a little deeper into the commandment to honor our father and mother. As you have seen and will continue to see, this commandment looks a little different depending on your stage of life.
Throughout my life, one of the dearest relationships has always been with my parents. I have told them before that if it wasn’t culturally frowned upon, I would still be living in their basement. My mom is one the most joyous, caring, loving and godly women that anyone will ever have the pleasure to know. She is a fierce prayer warrior and never shies away from telling people about how awesome Jesus is. My dad, quite simply, is my hero. Alongside Jesus, I am who I am today because of him. He is driven but caring, relentlessly pursuing perfection but sarcastic at the same time. I model my life and my manhood after my dad.
Over the last couple of years, my relationship has changed with them. I am no longer living with them, but with my wife and child. I am no longer directly under their authority; I am building and leading a family of my own. Although my relationship with them looks a little different, one thing that will forever stay the same: my willingness to seek their wisdom .
Among other passages in the Bible, Job 12:12 and Proverbs 20:29 speak to the value of seeking wisdom from those older than us. Our elders shouldn’t be people that we grow to resent, as is common in the world we live in today, but cherished allies.
We are foolish if we tell ourselves that we have it all figured out and don’t need anyone to coach us along. What if, when you moved out from your parent’s house, you still chose to heed their wisdom? This doesn’t mean that you need to blindly follow what they say because they said it. However, it is wise to listen to what they say and compare it to your own thoughts and opinions. Whether we like it or not, our parents are intelligent. They know what they’re talking about. Why not still care what they have to say?
This isn’t just something that’s a good idea, it’s a Biblical commandment. Why not give their thoughts and opinions the time of day? You may find yourself surprised!